Friday, December 7, 2012

Meet Bridget Kelly: Taking Over R&B


Man oh man has R&B surely been blessed with an influx of unique and talented ladies taking the helm of a genre that was slowly becoming so infused with Hip Hop that it was beginning to disappear into oblivion. Thanks to the likes of Elle Varner, Janelle Monae, Ledisi and many others the genre is on its way back to the glory it once claimed. In comes beautiful, long time songwriter and artist Bridget Kelly, whose single "Special Delivery" is reminiscent of the golden era of soul music and steadily making its mark on urban radio.

Ms. Kelly could easily pass as another beautiful songstress but the the power and conviction of her voice and the lyrics of her music separate her from others that claim the same title. Born and raised in New York City, the graduate of the famous LaGuardia High School of Performing Arts credits her love of music to her parents who were both avid music lovers and performers. Now signed to Roc Nation, Kelly is hoping to storm the industry by reintroducing unequivocal music performance with the release of her upcoming album that will feature productions by the six time Grammy nominated Frank Ocean, James Fauntleroy, and Ryan Leslie to name a few.

Being backed by Jay-Z's Roc Nation may prove to be a blessing or a curse for Ms. Kelly with the latter being our worst fear. While the label is known for its avid artist development, some of their artists seem like regurgitation of others (Rita Ora reminds me of Rhianna) which often does not sit well with active music listeners. Though nothing is new under the sun, Kelly seems to offer a touch of nostalgia with a hint of 2012 freshness.



To learn more about Bridget Kelly you can visit www.bridgetkelly.com

Why Katt Williams' Breakdown Matters.



Thanks to the prevalence of video surveillance and the rapid transfer of information on social media sites like Twitter or Facebook, we all have front row seats to the gradual demise of beloved comedian and entertainer Katt Williams.  As tales of Williams' erratic and violent behavior become everyday occurrences  laughing at him becomes easy as the one who once told the jokes has now become the "joke".  While others may be able to find delight in another's ills, Katt Willliams' behavior is quite sad and deserves consideration from those who have supported him over the span of his once thriving career.

Speculation of the cause of outbursts have been attributed to drug abuse and from the looks of recent photos/videos showing a haggard looking Katt, that conclusion can easily be drawn simply on appearances alone. Looking pass the superficial, one can simply see that this bad place he is in stems  from something much deeper emotionally and/or mentally which must be addressed to save this man's life much less his declining career. The lack of mental health awareness and treatment in the African American community affects much more than the individual and the stigma attached to having mental or emotional issues have only served to worsen the wound. It is simple to dismiss Katt Williams as crazy or "bout that life" when we only see snippets of his actions. Stepping back to look at the whole picture will reveal that what we are privy to witnessing is only a tiny piece of an entire collage.
It is likely that what Katt is facing (career stoppage, possible incarceration, financial loss) began long before he became a popular comedian and that left unacknowledged has snowballed into a gradual breakdown while in the judgmental eyes of public opinion. As funny as he is, Katt can not laugh his way out of the trouble his actions has put him in and he must do a thorough self reflection to have an inkling of hope of returning to his former self. Hopefully through his resources, Katt will find the help that he needs before he reaches that "dark" place but only time will tell.

Do your think that Katt Williams comedic career can recover from his latest behavior?





Monday, November 26, 2012

Is Marriage Still Important?



Whewww!! What a Thanksgiving break. Even with an entire week off from work, I still feel like I need a vacation after having such a hectic holiday break. With my return to the cyber world after neglecting my MacBook for almost ten days, I was greeted by a question from a male friend about marriage or more specifically, do women still consider marriage to be a priority? Of course the question is too broad and no one can possibly answer for all women but it did get my wheels turning considering I am knocking on thirty's door (which is the imaginary cut off date for single women)!

Marriage can be a beautiful union when both parties are fully committed to its success however, the value of being truly committed to one person seems non existent especially when significant others are seen and treated as disposable. I personally have not seen many successful or loving marriages growing up which may likely skew my opinion of it. It may not appeal to me at this current point in my life but of course like most people I would love to have the companionship and support that would come from a marrying a compatible partner but I am not foolish enough to believe that marriage can survive off of the love fumes alone

.  Depending on who you ask, the most significant part of marriage is the financial component of it. Simply put spouses get benefits that single people don't including health insurance and countless others. There may be some validity to this reasoning considering that the top reason for the dissolve of marriages are based on finances or like Kanye said "She ain't messing with no broke ni**a". Nothing can break a loving family apart quicker than having to endure the struggles of financial hardships.

As a single woman who has never been married, I am certainly not qualified to give advice on what makes a marriage work. But to answer his question, marriage it is not a top priority on my list of things to accomplish in life but that does not mean that I am against it. I have just become content with that if it is meant for me it will be.

Do you think that marriage is an important milestone?

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Friday, November 9, 2012

Dead Prez Return Has Perfect Timing


With half of the country pissed off that President Barack Obama is still in the White House, the political and socially conscious hip hop duo, Dead Prez picked the perfect time for a comeback with the release of their album, Information Age, in January 2013.  Most known for the critically acclaimed single "Hip Hop" from the album Get Free, the group has not strayed from the recipe of fiery political commentary and addressing the ills of the poor and/or minority filled communities. Their performance of the song and the intensity of its lyrics can be seen in Dave Chapelle's concert movie, Block Party, along with performances from other socially aware artists like Erykah Badu, Jill Scott, and The Roots.

Information Age includes much lighter production than I expected which helps transition the group into the current hip hop market but they still manage to keep the content thought provoking and relevant. One of the stand out singles from the new album for me was "Dirty White Girl" which has a double meaning of the harsh effects of becoming involved with cocaine. By listing why they stay away from "Lohans and Dixie Chicks" and love Sistah Souljah, Dead Prez may seem to hate white girls but they are literally expressing their disgust with hard drugs and its part in the destruction of minorities. This is one group that is not afraid to state how they feel and everything is covered from sex and drugs to education and religion.

The album dishes out knowledge from the intro to the last single making it a far contrast from what is in heavy rotation on many of the mainstream hip hop airwaves. Hopefully, Dead Prez's return can help shift the market towards adding socially aware music into the mix along with the club bangers or superficial rap that is dominant at the moment. The firestorm surrounding the recent elections make it the prime time for black artists to show that we are not what they make us out to be through the couple of coon artists that they push down our throats and somehow become wildly popular

Infomation Age is set to be released early next year and will feature The Roots member, Martin Luther, and Umar bin Hassan of The Last Poets.


Video for Dead Prez's single "Hip Hop"

"Would you rather have a Lexus or justice, a dream or some substance?" - Dead Prez

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Did Vote or Die, Die?

Four years ago at this time your favorite rapper, artist, or actress was most likely involved in some sort of voting campaign. With the possibility of having the first African American leader of the United States inaugurated, expressing the necessities of voting was the hip thing to do in 2008. People that never publicly expressed concerned about the importance of voting were now leading the way as voting advocates.

Diddy's (aka Sean Combs or Puff Daddy to the old heads)  Vote or Die campaign stood out the most to me as it was one of the most popular voting campaigns among young voters and people of color. (They also had to coolest t-shirts).  Many of the people that they sought to reach would be casting their ballots for the first time and lived in urban areas.  So where has the Vote or Die campaign gone?

Every presidential election is an important one and this year's will be no exception considering how several polls are noting how close this race may be. It seems that this current race would be an opportune time for the popular Vote or Die effort to have resurfaced. Through all of the painful repetitive campaign commercials I've sat through this year, I have yet to see one mention of Vote or Die.

After a recent visit to the Martin Luther King Historic Center in Atlanta, I was sharply reminded of why every black person, poor person, and disenfranchised person should cast a vote. Every tactic known to man was once put in place to prevent the aforementioned from voting which included ridiculous testing to physical attacks or intimidation. The fact that we can freely register and vote for our candidates of choice should be reason enough to do so.



Despite President Obama's popularity among black voters, we still have a long way to go and the fight is a long way from ending. We do not need another reminder that our votes or not voting can have huge effects on our lives. So do we really need entertainers, whose lives do not resemble the average working class American citizen, telling us the importance or exercising our right to vote?

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Meet Petite Noir: Africa's Rising Pop Star


First let me apologize for my blog vacation. The CBI conference in Atlanta kept me pretty busy and seeing the city was quite fantastic! While I was away, my inbox was steady filling up with all kind of musical goodies, however, one artist in particular stood out the most for many obvious reasons that you will find below.

When thinking of the beauties of Africa, its affinity for producing pop stars does not immediately come to mind but Yannick Ilunga, a half Congolese and half Angolan artist that goes by the stage moniker, Petite Noir, may be about to change what you think you know as African music.  This 22 year old artist/producer's music is hard to describe, hauntingly unique, and at the same time hard to turn away from.

Somewhat electronica, somewhat soul based, Petite Noir's sound has baffled and intrigued some of the industry's most seasoned critics. Featured in both Pitchfork and Rolling Stone, he is steadily growing as an artist that the world needs to pay attention to by turning the world's perception of African sounds upside down and slamming them on their face.

Petite Noir influences are all the place and this immediately shows up from the first few seconds of listening to one of his singles. His debut single, Till We Ghosts, has made him popular among music's snotty elite and helped lead him to perform a sold out show in London.

Check out Petite Noir's music below and decide for yourself if he has what it takes to conquer the charts.

Petite Noir's Till We Ghosts 




Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Real Housewives of Atlanta Gears Up for Season 5


If you're like me, you probably can't believe that Real Housewives of Atlanta lasted so long and is back for it's fifth season on Bravo TV. With new cast additions and old foes returning I admittedly will be tuning in to check out the foolery that is set to begin on November 4th. There have been several RHOA knockoffs but something about the relationships on this show continue to draw viewers and the various renditions of Housewives fall just short of capturing the audience like the Atlanta cast. (New Jersey is probably closest).

Of course the obvious difference between the shows is that Atlanta has an majority black cast and set in a city that is known for its large wealthy or well connected African American community. I think that the dynamics of the personalities is what make the show interesting more so than color or race. How many viewers have chosen sides with NeNe and Kim during their arguments or wanted to slap Phaedra for saying something stupid? The personalities of the ladies (whether you like them or not) make for good television and the audience has grown connected to the women over the last four seasons.

This season Bravo dumped Sheree Whitfield and added former Miss U.S.A Kenya Moore and Porsha Williams-Stewart, wife of former NFL star Kordell Stewart. If the recently released trailer is any indication of the upcoming season, I predict drama galore. Hopefully the new ladies won't deter the dynamic too much but we shall see.

Will you be tuning in?

Real Housewives of Atlanta premieres on November 4th at 9 pm on Bravo. Check out the trailer below!




Monday, October 22, 2012

Get to Know: Jhene Aiko


With the music industry's long supply of  beautiful female pop singers, Jhene Aiko is looking to make her mark on R&B with a cool dose of individuality, strong songwriting, and her angelic voice leading the way.  This L.A. born and bred singer/songwriter caused quite a stir with the release of her 2011 mixtape, Sailing Souls, which recieved great reviews and an excited fanbase. Now with label backing (No I.D.Def Jam), Aiko is looking to once again tackle music full time.

Jhene may seem familiar from her time touring and working with the group B2K at the height of their popularity, where she was featured in videos and opened for the group during the popular Scream 3 Tour as a teenager. In case you don't know, B2K was the grouped that featured and spawned, Omari Hardwick aka Omarion. Though she found relative success from her affiliation with the group, Aiko failed to release an album and decided to take a break from the music industry.
 
Thankfully, Aiko continued to write and the underground success of her Sailing Souls project has catapulted her as a singer/songwriter to watch for 2013. Her unique voice may remind listeners of being Cassie like but with more power and heartfelt emotions. Her songwriting skills are what separate her from similar artists by offering poetic but relatable lyrics.

There has been no official release date for her upcoming album, Souled Out, but stay tuned to soulsistah's life for any updates!

To listen to Sailing Souls, you can visit www.jheneaiko.com

Saturday, October 20, 2012

Why Does Chief Keef Scare People?





 Nightline with Diane Sawyer visited and reported on the insane amount of gang violence controlling the streets of Chicago, IL and the communities that are affected. More deaths took place in the streets of the city than U.S. troops died fighting in Afghanistan, with over 400 deaths in a year's time. Families have lost love ones who were innocent bystanders and victims of being in the wrong place at the wrong time.  Children, grandmothers, college bound teenagers and scores of others have lost their lives due to gun violence in Chicago.

During Sawyers report, up pops Chief Keef's music video for "Don't Like" as an example of what the gang culture looks like. Keef, a 17-year-old rapper signed to Interscope Records, is a known gang member and suspected of being involved in the murder of another young Chicago rapper, Lil Jojo who was only sixteen at the time he was killed. Keef's vented his satisfaction of Jojo's death via his twitter account leading police to investigate his ties to the crime. As disturbing as his feelings may be, Keef and his music are more the result than the problem.

While the deaths of the innocent bystanders are heart wrenching, the majority of Chicago murders are of young adults with many of them being members of the city's numerous black and latino gangs. We're talking about young people whose talents are wasted and who never really get the chance to become productive members of society. No matter how hard Chief Keef seems to some, technically he is still a child that is playing in a man's game that he probably has no choice in just from living in a certain neighborhood.

Chicago is receiving national and international attention for the gun violence but every major city and even rural areas are now feeling the effects of gangs and the easy accessibility to guns. What Keef represents is a generation of males of color that are basically products of what those who came before them created. We recognize the problem but finding long term solutions has not been so easy. He was not the first rapper to discuss violence, murder, and drugs and he is not the most influential rapper that does but his ties to Chicago, a city that is under fire, makes him the easy target.

A question we should ask ourselves is how can be offer our youth the opportunities to become something other than a Chief Keef, regardless of the neighborhoods they live in or the colors they wear?






Friday, October 19, 2012

The Weeknd: How This Mystery Man is Changing R&B


The days of R&B that included the likes of Sam Cooke and the Motown era have long gone and mostly been replaced by sex driven lyrics and hip hop production.  Like many other genres of music that have undergone reformations, a few artists remain that stick to the classic R&B formulas but for the most part younger artists have taken what was and flipped it 2012 style.

In comes the mysterious Canadian singer Abel Tesfaye, also known as The Weeknd. I first discovered him about two years ago when the Aaliyah's Rock the Boat sampled single  What You Need showed up in my inbox. Not to fall for an artist from one single, I immediately found and listened to his mixtape "House of Balloons". What I discovered was music fueled by sex, drugs, and rock n roll that was mystifying and unique among other things.  His music is comprised of a mystic aura that lulls the listener into a smoke filled wonderland with his soft voice leading the way. 


Though his feature on Drake's single Crew Love is most likely his most commercial success, The Weeknd has built a following by releasing three free mixtapes that were stronger than many label albums. Still not the artist to follow tradition, Weeknd plans a November release of both new and unreleased singles with the backing of Universal Republic in collaboration with the grassroots XO team based out of Toronto, Canada.

Still not much is known about the Weeknd outside of what can be deciphered from his music. Rarely can an artist remain as conspicuous as he has in today's social media age yet he has without his music suffering. Overexposure kills artists after a little while so maybe it is his way of ensuring longevity. One can only hope that we will have Weeknd albums years from now but only time will tell.

The Weeknd is currently on a Fall Tour around the States with a stop in Charlotte, NC on Saturday, October 20th at the Fillmore. All three mixtapes, House of Balloons, Thursday, and Echoes of Silence can be found at http://www.datpiff.com/mixtapes-search?criteria=the%20weeknd&sort=relevance

To preorder Trilogy and for more tour dates visit the-weeknd.com.   



Personal favorites include the singles Wicked Games, The Knowing, Montreal, The Fall, and What You Need.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Soon You Can Learn Your Status at Home



Fairly soon there may not be a need to visit the doctor to know your HIV status. The FDA has recently approved a new HIV test that can be taken in the privacy and comfort of home called OraQuick. Similar to at home drug testing, OraQuick will be available at many of the retail pharmacies and online at a cost of about $40.

OraQuick uses the oral swab method which is used by many labs and doctor offices around the nation. What consumers should be aware of is that the test is not 100 percent accurate. According to the Food and Drug Administration, the test could miss about 1 in 12 of the infected people which is about a 92 percent accuracy rate. The test was found to have a 99.9 percent accurate rate of ruling out HIV in those who test who are not infected.

NBA legend, entrepreneur, and AIDS activist Magic Johnson completely endorses the test and his own infection of HIV is most likely the reasoning behind this. With African Americans and Hispanic communities having the highest leading rates of HIV infections, this test may be instrumental in saving lives.

Whether they can not afford to visit the doctor or are ashamed to do so, many people who are infected do not know their status. Despite strides in HIV and AIDS education and prevention the rates continue to climb among Blacks and Hispanics. OraQuick offers a private and relatively inexpensive way for anyone to test for HIV.

Many communities have places or special events that offer free HIV testing.  Most Public Health offices and clinics have free or significantly reduced prices for HIV and can be found by visiting your county's Department of Social Services website. For national HIV and STD testing resources, you can visit hivtest.cdc.gov for more information.


Couple Arrested for Running a Strip Club in their Home

Know Thy Neighbor.

 According to CNN  Gregory Lacy and LaQuron Lacy were arrested and charged with various child abuse charges after a body was discovered on their front lawn.





When their home was searched in connection to the homicide, the policed discovered that the first floor of the California couple's home had been converted into an operating strip club called Exotic Zone. The  couple are believed to have operated the club for quite sometime in their picturesque two story home in Perris.

This story would be hilarious if it wasn't for the seven adopted children who lived in the home and suffered severe abuse ranging from sexual assault to starvation. None of the children were over the age of 11-years-old and reported to the officers that they had been beaten with sticks and held in rooms without food. The 7-year-old reported being sexually abused and several of the other children witnessed the act take place on a bathroom floor.

How can a community not realize that an illegal strip club is operating in their own neighborhood or notice that children were being harmed? It seems that disconnection between neighbors has been steadily growing and everyone tends to mind their own business when they want to but not when they should. People probably knew more about who bought a new car than they did about an illegal strip club next door.

Growing up we knew almost everyone who lived in our subdivision. Neighbors shop at the same stores and our children more likely than not attend the same schools but the fellowship among neighbors seems to be at a steady decline. I am sure that not all neighbors are equally yoked however an effort to become acquainted seems reasonable. Who wouldn't want to know a little bit about the people who live near you?

Thankfully the children have been saved from this hellhole and may be granted some sort of normal childhood. It is highly probable if someone's body had not been found lying on the Lacy's front yard these babies would still be subjected to the abuse.

Do you know thy neighbor?

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Get to Know: K'la

In an industry dominated by machismo and egos, it sure is nice to get that breathe of fresh air that the femcee K'la provides. Hailing from Gary, Indiana, K'la is a stark contrast from the current pool of female rappers (cough, cough Nicki Minaj) that we have been tricked into believing are the only options. Not only does she provide smart and substantial lyricism, she also sings and sprinkles in just enough hood flavor to keep it interesting.

After relocating to Atlanta and dropping her mixtape, Coldest Winter Ever, K'la proved that she has what it takes to make it in the rap game. Her most popular single, All Your Love, was a smooth track that featured her displaying her vocals as well as lyricism over the classic Bob Marley track Turn the Lights Down Low. The track was also produced by Marley's son, Stephen and its success has made her one of the up and coming artists to watch. 

K'la latest single, Blame, showcases her vocals and features one of hip hop's greatest lyricist and my baby daddy in my head, Nas. Currently signed to Island Def Jam, K'la is planning to release her debut album sometime in 2013 and if her work from her mixtape is any indication of what is to come, it should be exciting. 

To download Coldest Winter Ever visit: http://www.datpiff.com/K-LA-The-Coldest-Winter-Ever-mixtape.172060.html

Her single Blame featuring Nas is currently available on ITunes.

Are you digging K'la?

Zimmerman gets a Date




In the wake of the upcoming elections, a trial date has been set for George Zimmerman who is accused of killing 17-year-old Trayvon Martin last year in Sanford, Florida. Zimmerman will stand trial in June 10, 2013 according to HuffingtonPost.com.

The death of Martin sparked national outrage after the teen was shot to death returning home from the corner store by Zimmerman who was accused of profiling the teen because he was black. The teen was said to have been left in the morgue for days before his parents had been contacted and Zimmerman was not immediately arrested after the incident took place.  Many believe that Zimmerman would most likely be a free from any consequences if not for the street protests and the intense media coverage placed on Sanford law enforcement officials. It makes you wonder how many other victims are out there whose lives were not valued enough for at least a thorough investigation to be completed. 


People of color have long had a contentious relationship with all levels of the judicial system beginning with law enforcement officers all the way up to Superior Judges. Trayvon's death has once again thrust the spotlight on the culture and flaws of how many police departments operate.  Citizens of this nation are supposed to trust our officers and no matter what our personal opinions are about the police they still essentially work for the people. The large disconnect between people of color and law enforcement simply comes from not being able to trust one another. 

Though Martin had his life cut short, his death has effected the community immensely. Justice was only forced upon Zimmerman due to the people, regardless of race or color,  not remaining silent against blatant bias and favoritism. Hopefully we as citizens stay engaged and keep holding our public officials accountable for their actions or lack there of by being informed and more importantly putting forth action. 

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

We Are Not Our Hair

Admittedly, I am a bit obsessive when it comes to my hair maintenance and products. I am sure that plenty of my sistahs know that we have a little  extra step in our walk when our hair looks great. Blame it on our mothers and on their mothers before them. Black women and the issue of our hair has been a decades long argument that can often get pretty heated. The part that I want to address is why?


I Am Not My Hair                 

If you are familiar with India Arie's single, I Am Not My Hair, you would know that the lyrics are about her personality and inner self outshining her physical appearance. Ideally this would be great but most of us know that it's just not the case today, especially when a photo can be taken, posted, and critiqued all within thirty seconds. So the bigger question that I want to ask is why does the way that someone else choose to wear their hair such a big deal?

Women of color have come so far as a whole yet the criticisms that we place on one another's appearance seems to have become worse. The current debate of natural hair versus relaxed hair has personally become hard to bear. Walk across any current college campus and it seems that we are living in a real life version of Spike Lee's School Daze.  Instead of jigaboos against wannabes, we have natural hair against relaxed hair. And I must agree with the theme that movie tried to get across which is that no matter what your appearance or what your preferred style is, we all share the same struggles,joys, and triumphs.

I for one love the various styles that we can create from having such versatile hair textures. It is one of the physical attributes that separates us and allows for us to showcase our creativity everyday we walk outside. Curly fros, tight coils, or bone straight styles can all be beautiful

Now when someone figures out how to keep our styles in place after a gym visit definitely send me the memo. 

What are your thoughts?




Running Towards Thirty


Thirty is Still Thirty


My thirtieth birthday is around the corner and I can not wait. Yes I do plan to party like its 1999 again but with this milestone upon me it was impossible for me to not take the time to reflect on the last couple of decades.  Age has never really been a major consideration for me when it comes to how I approach daily life or when I am meeting someone new for the first time but something about the sound of saying I am thirty years old makes me feel like I am really a grown ass woman.

Not that I don't feel like an adult because surely I have to pay bills, raise children, work that 9 to 5 and keep my sexiness tight all while pushing a piece of myself to the side.  Adulthood can truly suck at times especially when you feared growing up for so long. Surely we can all relate to the pains of going through  doing what we have to and not what we want to do. But for now leaving my twenties behind is much easier for me that I ever thought that it would be.

Realizing Mistakes  

At about year 26 I began to get a little nervous about getting older. I was still living the life of a ghetto Carrie Bradshaw and hitting every party I was invited to and even to some that I wasn't. Boys, working, partying, and shopping became like Ground Hog day for at least two years of my life that I hardly remember because at that time I was very 4/20 friendly. I basically shaved time off my life by living in a haze of being unappreciative and selfish. The outcome was that I was a lot further behind than where I imagined I would be.

 It took almost losing my mother and best friend nearly simultaneously to realize that I had more than just me to live for. I hardly noticed what  an incomparable support system of family and friends I had that never faltered and I was about to start a job in higher education with the coolest boss. On top of that I was being surrounded by my first love, music, everyday while getting the opportunity to meet some pretty unique and special people along the way.

 Perspective can change quickly when you face things that you never thought you would or earlier than you expected. Ill preparedness can be a witch but it forces us to take responsibility for the parts that we have control over. Reflection of our past is not always smiles and good memories and sometimes you just have to realize that I should have done better, could have done better, but understand that for most things there is no do over.


Running Towards Thirty

Yes, the annoying quips from some dingy college girls telling me I look good for my age can truly irk my nerves and for a split second I may question my vitality but I am still cool with embracing this next phase. This throwback can still show out when it is the right time and finding the joy in things that don't jeopardize my well being make me realize that I am now what I consider a grown up. Besides Aaliyah said it best age when she sang "Age ain't nothing but a thang".

From today forward I will do my best to focus only on improving and not base my success by comparing it to others. Along with this sexy and encouraging trainer I met recently I am looking to do just that. Together we have begun the process to improve my health. Not only is he fine as hell, he is also in love with being healthy and great at explaining how to do better day by day.  This is proof that the people we surround ourselves with can shape us

Training began today and I felt muscles I forgot about but as long as I get to look at that chocolate skin and body every time I'll be there!

Some things never change I guess but change does happen. Good or bad. Until next time loves you will have to wait to hear how the SexyChocolate sessions go.

To Be Continued.